Self actualization and happiness

So I've had a few moments to ponder the question raised in the last posting on whether the ideas found in the pyramid of fulfillment leading to happiness are kosher with the life of an orthodox Christian. After I have taken all the mental tangents, removed all the flowery scholastic prose, and prayed about it a bit, it comes down to this:

A life seeking holiness - a taking on of the Holy Spirit, a following of the holy commandments, and a participation in the works of the Church - will lead to a happiness. I doubt very much it is the self-satisfied happiness of someone who sits on their couch watching the game with pants unbuttoned having finished Thanksgiving dinner, but it is a happiness that comes with a closeness to He who is beyond being and the good by which all good things merit their goodness.

Self-actualization assumes that after other things have been met that a self-actualized person will have: morality, creativity, spontaneity, the ability to solve problems, a lack of prejudices, and the ability to accept facts. Some of these things obviously fit into both camps, while others bend into different directions.

Is the holy person marked by a spontaneous nature? I would say the opposite is often markedly apparent. Look at St. Seraphim's life of constant prayer or even the lives of the saints who were parents and lived lives more akin to ours... Saint Emily for example. Why does spontaneity matter to the self-actualized? I can guess that it shows a willingness to make changes and a unique ability not reachable by the poor factory worker working 6 days a week with insufficient means to just wing it.

What of a lack of prejudices? If we use the Maslow hierarchical model again we see that the morality they mention is one that is "internalized" and "separate from external authority." This smacks of relativism. I can devise my own systematic moral outline and if it is advanced enough along the actualized path it will be devoid of prejudicial judgments about the actions of others. This reminds me of the people that come up with their own degree plans in college and have degrees in whatever interests them. Even they submit to external authority, though.

So both see a mountain, but what exactly constitutes a mountain and its reason for existing differ. Two people can walk up the same tor with completely different goals: one to experience the splendor of creation and the other to say he conquered it.